Saturday, January 24, 2009

Jimmy Courier HOT?

Bridgets - is it hormones? Is it the humidity? or maybe 72 hours non-stop with my son and i will not tell You how many days since you know when!!! Anyway, my darling son is kicking me with his frog-like feet while I try to shield the computer so I can type. He is extremely happy and I am sure I must be burning more calories than if I just sat down and watched Federer go down. Come on Roge!!!!

Anyway the highlights of the last 3 days have been laughing with Kalani (and cuddling as he has been sick) and day dreaming, whilst listening to Jimmy Courier - I mean, please, (no offence if you ever ever read this Jimmy), but he's not really the first person Wiki would throw at you to search words tennis spunk. Alas ,when you really listen to the way he thinks and not the words, but more the stories - he is WAY cool.

Anyway, I must return to Jimmy and to cooking darling son some dinner. He has just blocked me into the office with 2 cars and one really cool looking sand dune buggy thing! I used to love boy toys so much more than girls things...

anyway, i think the same still applies, which is good to re-affirm at my age and being single and all. That was a joke. Bridget

Friday, January 23, 2009

Desperate times for Bridget

Bridgets I must be getting desperate. Even the South African cricket players are looking good looking. !#@##$% Confused and desperado Bridget

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Damn the Swiss

Bridgets, Damn the swiss for making such devine and indulgent chocolate!

Damn hormones for my insatiable appetite and Damn myself for lack of self control.

Thank god for supermarkets on every corner, fuel prices coming down and easy access to devil's food.

Contemplative bridget

Home and Away returns (again!!)

Bridgets - you know Christmas is officially over when Home and Away comes back on telly! What is the go with Jack dying. I am running out of reasons to watch the show. With Jack gone - well - I can't think of any reason to watch it now. Desperate Housewives is at least 2 weeks away- what am I to do?

That's OK, the tennis is on, so for now, my balmy nights are filled with grunts and groans (coming from the telly). Slash Chris Everett (sorry love) and let's listen to Jimmy Courier ALL night and there's one great night of entertainment. He is one funny dude. Even the way he walks on to court to do his "after match interviews" is funny.

I have moved Sanxing back home. It's an end of an era and the start of something sleek, new and very chic! I am so excited in my job. It's so not a job. My clients inspire me and hopefully I can coach them in return. I shall be sending a newsletter out next week with some irresistable offers! (go the sales pitch).

There is so much to add to byebyebridget - sorry it has been slow taking off. I have learned alot about running a website. I am sure it will be better than Obama's talk tonight, (well maybe more relevent to everyday life, ie managing kids, husbands and social calendar) when I get things ticking over. Hang in there and I will give every one the green light when it is in full swing!!

Well back to grunting and groaning and enjoy this time of year.

adios Bridget

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Hugh Grant and SPAT group

Bridgets I am watching a funny movie with Hugh Grant and he is pretending to be a single parent so he can swoon in on single mothers. He attends Single Parents Alone Together (SPAT ) groups to try to score. very funny. bridget

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Don't feed your kids chocolate

Bridgets - what was a thinking - the kids have now gone bonkers after their little chocolate experience - Don't feed your kids chocolate - Maybe the hand-me-down-Bridget-secret-tradition-of teaching kids to eat chocolate could be replaced with teaching them to clean a toilet bowl... disillusioned me signing off, Bridget

Teaching children to eat chocolate

Bridgets and mini bridgets, I have just been honored by my middle child to teach her how to eat chocolate. It's one of those true quintesential moments in life, like when a dad first teaches his boy how to use a cricket bat, like going fishing with your grandfather and like learning to cook an apple pie from your grandma.

Mums teaching children to really, really eat chocoalte is magic.

I know her life will never be the same again - now that the Bridget's Secret is out.

I was just about to divulge the REAL way to eat chocolate but you all know.

And I can't believe I confessed to just eating chocolate - tiny santas too - yummy. Well I lasted 14 days.. bye from naughty but content, Bridget

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

over coming fear # 2

birdgets - have you been taking everything on board as feedback? I have - much better. I feel less defensive, less offended, more gratiful - bizarre that such a little change in how I filter things can make such a massive difference.

Well there is even more to work on...

And this one is another of my Demons - I think and imagine an idea and go full on, full out and feel slashed to the knees if I draw a blank or negative response. Know what I mean?

For example, since I have been single over the last 7 months, I have asked 1 guy (only 1 guy), if he wanted to catch up (as a mate mind you) and he deflected my request to the keeper - How devasting - I am now bound to solitary confinement and feel about the height of an ant in the "ask a boy out stakes"!

So really I should take his non-communicado as "feedback". Haha - Aussie blokes - that's another kettle of fish.

Anyway back to everyday failures and successes. The take home lesson is Be persistant. I remember the old saying "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again.." baring in mind the definition of a fool is "doing the same thing and expecting a different result". So persist but mix it up, try something different. Try coming in from the side.

It's also very important, as I am learning, not to take things personally. Most people make decisions based on what';s in their head, not on what you have presented. And what people think and interpret is totally out of your control - (to a degree). I am trying to not be as hard on myself and see things are experiences not judgements of my personality.

As Don and Anton will both ask if you see them as coaches is what was the mistake?,why did it happen, and what could you do better next time. Just try to take the lessons and don't beat yourself up.

Then find the silver lining and move on.

have fun bridget

Monday, January 12, 2009

Overcoming Fear of Failure

Bridgets, wow - this topic has been one of my little demons that i am working through. And I think I am coming out the other side thanks to Don Power (author of byebyedemons) and my business coach, Anton.

I don't know if you can relate to some of this and for me, I think it is more fear of success rather than failure. Either way, I think the self-sabotaging takes over. As part of my "homework" with Anton I had to google "Fear of Failure" and this is what I have learned (great site; www.goal-setting-guide.com) ...

Fear of failure is one of the greatest fears and is similar to criticism and rejection. People who are "successful" overcome these fears. Aparently the LAW of FEEDBACK states there is no failure, there is only feedback (I like this one). One needs to view mistakes as merely a result and learn and refine and move on.
I guess most of us know that we don't achieve a pinch of what we are capable of because we are scared of failure. But the only way to be successful is to cope these knocks. So bring 'em on!!! they are after all only feedback.
I have a sticker on my fridge that says "what would you do if you knew you could not fail". It's provocative, dynamic and keeps momentum moving forward.

There is a lot more but I will continue tonight or tomorrow.

That's enough to digest for one Tuesday avo.

By the way, bridgets, I have had wine for 4 days !!!! OMG! and i haven;t had chocolate for a week or more. I was inspired by two patients on Friday who are detoxing this week. Go girls and if anyone is thinking of detoxing drop me an email. It's so much easier in a "team".

Here's to lots of feedback, critisicm and successes!! Bridget

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

I read this regularly - I love it

I don't know who the author is.

There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror
and notied she had only three hairs on her head.
"well," she said, "i think I'll braid my hair today"
So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror
and saw that she only had two hairs on her head.
"Hmmm" she said,
"I' think I will part my hair down the middle today"
So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed
that she only had one hair on her head.
"well," she said, "today I'm going to wear my hair
in a pony tail."
So she did and had a fun, fun, day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed
that there wasn't a single hair on her head.
"YAY," she exclaimed.
"I don't have to fix my hair today!"

Attitude is everything.

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
Live Simply,
Love generously,
Care deeply,
Speak kindly,
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass....

It's about learning to dance in the rain.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

2009 Amnesty

Bridgets, Ok, before we declare our long-thought-out D & Ms and New Year's Resolutions - I have decided to rid my 2008 baggage by returning all items borrowed. (And I would love it if people did the same) .
Imagine - maybe a "Return-all-loaned-items-amnesty-day" where we all , without shame, just handed back stuff we have been loaned or borrowed. And we could be promted or prompt people with an email or sms, or if it $, a big dirty fat note.

I am thinking of returning a few books seeing as I am not reading many at the moment. I would feel much better borrowing them again at a latter date . I am sure that will deminish some of the guilt I feel whenever I see the items.

And if you have any of my tupperware bowls (and lids) you know who you are!!!!, can I please have them back.

I am about to scrap my "tupperware draw" which was as iconic to me as owning a Victa lawn mower - sigh I worked so hard for my beautiful plastic and flash features - but now , unless I see a few things come back, i am going to liberate myself and scrap it. Gone, banished...actually it feels really liberating just entertaining the idea. Maybe 2009 is the year to return tupperware to it's rightful owners... step forward you Tupperware Queens - I am sorry - I think I was masquerading s a tupperware princes, and wasn't totally up for the long haul. I find cheapies suit me fine now days ...shame....

So if you have borrowed any items, loaned , leant or otherwise - I say we declare 9/1/9 National "return-any-items-borrowed-day" to their rightful owners.

Bridget

Saturday, January 3, 2009

Middle Child syndrome

Bridget - middle- children...
do you love life or do you really feel a bit lost?
i don't know a lot about middle children , but by some very strange co-incidence, pretty much ALL of my closest and best friends (some 30+ people) are ALL 2nd or 3rd or otherwise. Only 2 jump to mind that are first (and one is an only child).


i have heard so many people say to me".. well I am a middle child you know?.." which just leaves me confused because I'm not sure exactly what that would be like.

Middle-bridgets of the world, are you anything like my middle child, whom regularly expresses her frustrations, and at times anger, when she will tries to be bossy, or assertive, or rebellious like her big sister and is roused on. Then she tries the reverse and tries to be cute and goes, "ga-ga" like a baby and I tell her to grow up. Is that the kinda of gist? No real role model and just total confusion? Or is it a sly why to make it home base without too much spot light?

My middle one told me tonight (we were talking about No.twos and needing a nappy, as her brother still does) and she said "..mummy..sometimes I push so hard it brings tears to my eyes!"... She is so cute (obviously I did the opportunistic parenting thing and did a quick head-to-toe health check and told her to drink more water)... and then started to laugh. Poor little confused one - she is so cute!

So I think she has depicted aptly the delimmas of a middle child...NEither leader nor follower - plain undecided!

Adios x , bridget

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Continual Tweeking

Bridgets
I am finding more and more things to add to the website but also a few things aren't working that well. Such as the subscription process. I think we have fixed the problem, so give it a go. If you jump on as a registered guest, you can now become a subscriber and see even more info. Follow the prompts below http://www.byebyebridget.com/dotnetnuke/Registerfirst/tabid/70/Default.aspx

ciao Bridget